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10/11/06

Dreams about Cheating

To dream that you are cheating on your spouse, fiancé, or significant other, suggests feelings of self-guilt and self-betrayal. You may have compromised your beliefs or integrity and/or wasting your energy and time on fruitless endeavors. Alternatively, it reflects the intensity of your sexual passion and exploring areas of your sexuality. It is actually a reaffirmation of your commitment. Furthermore, it is not uncommon for people approaching a wedding to have dreams about erotic experiences with partners other than their intended spouses. Most likely, such dreams represent the newness of your sexual passion. It may also signify anxieties of changing your identity - that of a spouse.

To dream that your spouse or significant other is cheating on you indicates your fears of being abandoned. You may feel a lack of attention in the relationship. Alternatively, you may feel that you are not measuring up to the expectations of others. This notion may stem from issues of trust or self-esteem. The dream could also indicate that you are unconsciously picking up hints and cues that your significant other is not being completely truth or is not fully committed in the relationship.

17 Comments:

At 12:28 PM, Blogger jdoc said...

Hello:

A user suggested I post my dream here for an interpretation...thanks so much...

My dream was 2 part.

1st, I was in a field and I saw a dog 200 yards away and I knew to go after it. When I got there the dog fled and a large rattlesnake was left in it's place and turned its' attention to me. I was on the ground for some reason, the snake was coiled and I was eye to eye with it. It was older, skin was fading and flaking. I knew that it was upset and was trying to calm it down and even distract it so I could escape but I knew if I moved it would strike. I felt an inevitability of it striking because it was that upset. I was afraid but stood my ground, but was also perplexed at how to resolve the situation. The field, dog and snake were all whiteish/beige.

my dog woke me up and I went back to sleep.

2nd time I was in a room full of smaller snakes. I wasn't scared. The room was white and well lit. I was looking all the different snakes when I saw a baby rattlesnake directly in front of me. Not threatening, but trying to get my attention. I thought maybe I should be scared as they are more poisonous. I became a little worried but continued to observe all the snake movement around me.

thx :)

 
At 2:39 PM, Blogger Spirita said...

Jdoc, you'll find answers if you read my posts about snakes and dogs in dreams.

http://spirita.blogspot.com/2006/09/animals-in-dreams-dogs.html

http://spirita.blogspot.com/2006/09/animals-in-dreams-snakes.html

 
At 7:00 PM, Blogger Sim Whitman said...

I had two dreams that stuck in my mind this week.

Dream #1: I'm running away from my sister, thinking she hasn't seen me. Then I see her chasing after me. I run into a field with bulls, and they start charging my sister and me. I am able to jump over a fence and get away. I wonder if my sister got away, but I don't stop running.

Dream #2: I am in my primary school, and you are sitting at a desk in the corridor, doing dream interpretations. You are older than I imagined, and you have green hair. You don't recognise me, and I don't introduce myself. I ask you about the bull dream (but I can't remember what you said).

What is all that about?

 
At 2:54 PM, Blogger Spirita said...

Sim, to see your sister in your dream, symbolizes some aspect of your relationship with her, whether it one of sibling rivalry, caring, protectiveness, etc. Your sister may draw attention to your family role and sense of belonging. It may also serve to remind you that someone in your waking life has characteristics similar to your sister.

To dream that you are running away indicates an issue that you are trying to avoid. It also indicates that you are dealing with issues of belonging and acceptance.

To see a bull in your dream, symbolizes stubbornness, strong will, strength, and power. It is time to take some action and be more assertive. To see raging bull represents that your passions may be out of control.

To see a fence in your dream signifies an obstacle or barrier that may be standing on your path. You may feel confined and restricted in expressing yourself. To dream that you are jumping over a fence denotes success. It indicates that you will accomplish your desires.

Second dream is very interesting but I haven’t been able to interpret it.

 
At 8:50 PM, Blogger TexanBorn said...

I have had this re-curring theme or object in my dream for 3 weeks now. Not every night, but it stands out from all my other dreams so it has me curious.

I'm walking along by myself (no other humans around) and a big, strong female doberman is at my right and slightly behind me. She is with me but I don't feel she is "mine". I don't feel threatened, in fact I tried to speak and pet her in my last dream, but she always stays just out of reach.

I have never owned a dobie, although I've known 3 in my life. Two, brother and sister pair, were owned by a friend's mother and they scared the you know what out of me when I was getting out of her pool one day. The other was a female I rescued about 2 years ago and kept in my small apartment until I found her an appropriate home about 24 hours later.

I am looking at making some life changes in about 5 years and have considered adding a long haired chichuachua to my family at that time.

 
At 2:33 PM, Blogger Spirita said...

Texanborn, to dream that you are walking with ease represents the way you are moving through life and progress toward your goals. To dream that you are walking alone indicates feelings of rejection. You may be feeling that no one understand you.
Dogs in dreams could symbolize a large variety of ideas and concepts, but mostly they are symbolic of the dreamer's defensive structure and may represent personal boundary issues. First, if you have a dog, it may be natural to dream about him. Second, on the metaphysical level, dogs are considered to be the guardians of the underworld. Also, to see a dog in your dream, indicate a skill that you have ignored or forgotten, but needs to be activated. Alternatively, dogs may symbolize intuition, loyalty, generosity, protection, and fidelity. Your own values and intentions will enable you to go forward in the world and succeed.

 
At 9:10 PM, Blogger drea j said...

I have been dating this guy for a year and a half. He told me the other night that he had a dream that I got married..........to his friend. I have never met this friend of his. What do you think this means?

 
At 10:17 AM, Blogger Spirita said...

Drea, marriage in dream is a symbol of commitment and, depending on the details , person who dream about it may be currently dealing with this issue. A marriage in dream represents the coming together all various parts of ones (feminine and masculine, or spiritual and rational). It could represent a greater level of awareness where by the dreamer's conscious and unconscious elements are becoming more familiar and are embracing one another. The marriage dream is affirmation and encouragement to grow in self-awareness and to transform ourselves.

On a more practical level, this dream could also be a form of wish-fulfillment. It may represent the uniting of two people. It also may predict a growth of sympathy and relationship between parts that were previously not well related.

 
At 10:33 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Very helpful!

I've had a few cheating dreams in the past couple weeks, and it was disturbing to me.
I felt like I had actually cheated on my boyfriend, whom I've only been with about a month.

It makes me feel better to know that it may symbolize my commitment to him, because I do care for him very much.

 
At 3:35 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I had this dream where me and a guy I currently like was lying down together and facing each other. However when I tried to have eye contact with him, I realized that his face was turned somewhere else and he was ogling another girl. I was very upset and decided to walk away, but I also accepted the fact that I cannot change him. What does this mean?

 
At 9:46 AM, Anonymous Jessica said...

I had a horrible dream last night. I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months and love him!! I enjoy our time together and look forward to every outing. Last night I dreamt that I left him for my ex-boyfriend that I dated for 7 years and broke with 5 years ago. When the ex & I were being intimate in the dream I realized I did not want to be with him. I ran out of the room, bumped into my older sister and told her I made a mistake and that I want to be with my current boyfriend and she aid go get him. I ran back to find my current boyfriend and he was shopping for a new bed and would not give me another chance. I was so upset & close to tears when I woke up why did I dream this? I told my current boyfriend about it since he was there when I woke up startled and he's upset that I dreamt that. I want to know what it means. I know in my heart that I don't want to be with anyone but him.

 
At 5:29 AM, Anonymous Lawrence said...

Hello there... I cant stop thinking about last nights dream and i wondered if you could possibly tell me the meaning..

I was with my girlfriend and either me, her or both of us had arranged for her to meet some guy to have sex with so she/we could get some money..

I went with her to the house and introduced her to some lady who seemed rather disgusted that she was so young (she's 17 but we said she was 18) but then asked her to go and get changed into some lingere and a night gown...

The guy she was supposed to be meeting came down from up stairs, got something and went straight back up and didnt say anything.. all i remember is he had long hair and wasn't much older than me.

I suddendly was completly against the idea and told my gf she was too good for this and i didnt want her to do it and we left the house.. I was very upset to the point where it woke me up.

Also the night before last I dreamt that my girlfriend said that she thinks "prehaps its best that we are no longer together" though she was clearly upset when she was saying it...

your interpretation would be much appreciated.. many thanks

 
At 1:48 PM, Blogger Spirita said...

Lawrence, this dream could mean you’re feeling unable to break free of emotional-sexual dependence on your girlfriend. It could also represent feeling that you have 'sold out' or betrayed your real self or real feelings in order to survive in your relationship.
Dream could also show the way you may use someone else's need for or dependence on you to manipulate, extract money from, or abuse them.

 
At 2:40 PM, Anonymous Lawrence said...

to be honest i think it's probably all of the above... thanks a lot spirita.. you're very insightful and i love the blog!! i have many bizarre and confusing dreams.. thanks for your interpretation... i may ask for another soon if you don't mind.. thanks again..

 
At 3:45 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hello, I am so upset. Every so o ften I have dreams that my boyfriend of 4 and a half years is cheating on me. And I ALWAYS walk in and we always make eye contact,. We hold the eye contact while he continues touching the other girl. I always leave crying or very upset, and he never comes after me. I normally wake up right after because they are so vivid, and I am so upset.

Also, My boyfriend told me last night he had a terrible dream about being on a trampoline with a whole bunch of people and he was "doing stuff" with a girl on one side while I sat on the other side and gave him dirty looks and cried. And again in his dream we held eye contact for a while.

I'm actually a little scared about these dreams. PLease help.

 
At 8:51 PM, Blogger Spirita said...

Anonymous, understanding this dream about cheating may assist you in understanding your relationship and the level of attachment to your partner. These types of dreams are connected to feelings of inadequacy or dissatisfaction. Many dreams come from the private unconscious and are a reflection on thoughts, fears, desires, issues or are a response to stressful or anxiety provoking situations. At times people have dreams about cheating on their partners as a response to a long and monogamous relationship. The dream may be a compensation for boredom, monotony or unhappiness. On rare occasions a person may suspect, or feel on some level, that their partner is not faithful but is not willing to admit this consciously. Thus, in the dream state the individual confronts his fears and from there may begin to deal with the situation on a conscious level.

 
At 8:34 AM, Anonymous Shay said...

I've been having bad dreams for the past two months and their always different, with few connections inbetween.
First one that I remember vividly is my husband and I are in our home sleeping, but I hear a noise. I see my ex-stepfather in the door way. I try to wake up my husband because I know he's going to try to kill us. This is when I wake up, and see that no one is in our doorway.

Second one happened tonight: My husband and I are going to visit his family. At some point he loses his stuff and I'm upset but we carry on. Then we run into a girl I went to school with, she's naked and clearly starts trying to do stuff with my husband and I try to hit her, push her off. Nothing I do hurts her. She just laughs. She leaves and later I ask my husband where he was and he tells me he was masturbating to the girl earlier- like it's better than sleeping with her. I get very upset and don't speak to him the rest of the dream.

I know what certain symbols mean in the second dream: the girl is very fit and pretty, and I'm trying to lose weight after gaining some. I've always had self-esteem issues and dreams like this are not helping. I don't know what to do. I don't how to make them stop.

 

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